The Only Letter That Matters To Your Rector, Vestry & Bishop
Dear Father/Bishop [name],
Yesterday the House of Bishops voted to approve forcing parishes to consider cross-dressers, those who surgically mutilate themselves in order to pretend to be the opposite sex, and any others who differ from “majority societal gender norms” as possible appropriate candidates for rector, vestry member, nursery worker, or any other leadership or volunteer role in the church.
Further, the General Convention has approved rites for same sex blessings—purporting to “bless” sinful behavior that is in clear violation of Holy Scripture, tradition, and reason.
I’ve also noticed that the General Convention wants to have the national church receive 19% of the pledge money that is sent to Episcopal dioceses. Our own diocese has budgeted to send $323,881* to the national church—13%* of the pledge money that our diocese receives. In the meantime, the national church has spent some $21 million and counting on suing departing parishioners for their church property, much of which property was titled directly to the vestries of the parishes.
In no way can I support with financial assistance such incompetent, shameful, and deeply harmful actions from obviously corrupt church leaders. I love our parish dearly and will of course continue to worship here as a member. But it would be wrong to give the money with which God has blessed me to such terrible leaders, and in support of such harmful leadership policies. I will not be pledging money to this parish until there is a publicly known and well-delineated process for assuring parishioners that God’s treasure does not go to support such policies, either at the diocesan level or, of course, the national level. I recognize that that may mean I cannot vote in parish elections. But voting in parish elections is trivial when compared with sending money to support such outrageous and damaging policies.
I have also made an appointment with my lawyer to modify my will and other financial instruments so that The Episcopal Church will not receive the financial support I had intended for it after my death.
It is the right thing to do as I strive to exercise good stewardship over the material goods which God has entrusted to me.
Yours in faith,
If you have a scared moderate rector or scared revisionist rector, this is the only letter that matters to them [nothing matters to angry revisionist rectors, so leave them alone]. If they receive it, they will most likely want to learn about your feelings, strive to “listen” carefully, and help you feel “heard” and “understood.” They will “mirror” your concerns and repeat back to you what you just said to show that they understand what you are saying. They will talk about “mission and ministry.” And “unity in Christ.” And “that which divides us is not as great as that which brings us together.”
But that’s all just glitter and froth.
What matters is that letter. That letter is the only voice you have that they care about.
Write it and send it. Hand mail it to each vestry member too. And your bishop.
They don’t care about your theology. They don’t care how long you have been a member, even if you’re cradle-born. They don’t care that your grandparents are buried in the cemetery. They don’t care that you’re outraged or grieving. They don’t care about what you think about Scripture. Or tradition. Or reason. Don’t bother them with those trivial details—they’ve heard all that before and for years now. They care about one thing, as hirelings. Keeping their jobs while getting money out of your wallet and into their budgets.
Write the letter. And make certain you show it to all of your friends at the parish and around the diocese too.
* Replace these two numbers with numbers from your own diocese
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